My sister isn't she a doll
my mother still looking young
Last saturday my mother and my sister had a fight, so I was called up to be the moderator. When I was talking to my mother I would be on my sister's side and when I was talking to my sister I would be on my mother's side. It is a bit tiring though. My mother and sister is very much a like both are very sensitive, highly emotional and very strong headed. As for me, I am more like my father I presumed quiet, patient, and not sensitive at all. My mother had gone home after the fight I failed to persuade her to stay and she gave me rational reason so I let her go.
I would like to ask your opinion, if you are in my situation what would you do.
Hello Laily, Holy Smoke! Your sister is a real doll! If circumstances were different, my florists will become rich, ha ha..saya lepas handbrake, ha ha. Hey, beauty runs in your family, you are a very attractive lady too, ahemmm.
ReplyDeleteRe your problem, If two friends ask you to judge a dispute, don't accept, because you will lose one friend; on the other hand, if two strangers come with the same request, accept because you will gain one friend.
But in your case, it's family, thus you have to be very tactful and diplomatic, listen to both sides and don't take sides as both are important to you, remember you love them, they love you.
Confucius says, "we cannot judge anyone till we have walked one mile in their shoes".
I'm sure from reading your postings you have the diplomacy to solve problems...with love.
Terima kaseh seribu for your kind thoughts re my posting....by the way, kalu you ada senang, make a cup of iced coffee and take a look at my archive few months back...starting at,
1/ Uncle Lee, I need your advice", dated 11/30/07.
2/ My tears never dry for you,
3/ You are not my son,
4/Among my many memories (I dated Malay girls here)
5/ Dating a Malay actress.
6/ A faded letter from the past...This is a very long cherita, 19 episodes, took 3 weeks to post all, two episodes each posting. Its about a beautiful matured woman's love for a man half her age, me.
Hope you will enjoy read them
You stay beautiful and have a nice weekend.
Thanks lee for the advice, yes both are important to me I only have one sister and one mother, only three of us left since father pass away last year.
ReplyDeleteI will for sure visit your archive, looove reading your writing
Hi Laily, I'm terribly sorry and regret to read of your beloved father passing away last year.
ReplyDeleteYou take good care of your mom and your sister and especially yourself, Laily.
And remember, enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.
Enjoy the stories, Laily...ohhh, in case you wondering, I grew up next to a Malay kampong young days, and school holidays when in Form 1 and 2 used to follow my Malay friends balek their kampong by bus...stay in their kampong past padi fields, bathe by the well.
Hey, I'm an expert at getting a bucket of water with a rope from a well.
Petang help the pakcik collect coconut husks to burn keep mosquitoes away and sleep on the tikar at nights in the kampong house. Really good fun.
Then even helped the Makciks buat kueh dodol, I help to row the dodol, or help make ketupat, same time listen to the women gossiping, ha ha. I was also mistaken for a Malay boy as was sunburnt. And only Chinese boy in whole kampong too, ha ha.
I even helped to carry that stick with crepe paper flowers at Malay weddings when young.
And in school, my best friends were Malay boys (the ones that always get into mischief with me) as I grew into my late teens, I dated Malay girls as you will read, "among my memories".
I find Malay people have a better sense of humour than other races...and even today many of my Malay friends, some ada titles keep in touch with me.
Ahhh, now you know abit about my young life, ha ha...you'll know more when read the mentioned cheritas.
Oh ya, I even memorised Malay pantuns when tackling Malay girls...kala budak budak Melayu, ha ha. I still have some pantuns once awhile saya lepas kan at somebody's blog, ha ha.
Stay easy and have a nice day, Lee.
Your sis still looks like years ago when she's just a teenager! I hate this situation too..I normally play 'atas pagar'..especially when it involves my mom..she can do no wrong in her eyes. So really, no point!
ReplyDeleteActually I agree with Hliza. The atas pagar approach works best. Don't get into the mess. That's what I learnt.
ReplyDeleteWhen I fight with my mom (we are very much alike in the hard headed and tempermental department), it'll take a few days for the fight to blow over and everything will be forgotten.
Blood is thicker than water after all, even though at times you feel like taking blood thinner medication.
Thanks for the advice nani, haah, my sister and my mother is still looking very young.
ReplyDeleteLee i've read the story about you and the actress anita. I love the part where you brought her to your home, the way you narrated it is very vivid. I really can imagine it like watching a movie.
Aizan, blood is really thicker than water and nothing can change it.
Hi Laily, Glad you enjoyed the stories...Anita was one of the most beautiful women I ever dated, and it was only because of her shooting or rather filming all over, as well my career was also taking me away from home we both had hardly anytime to date or see each other and we parted as good friends, see each other once in a blue moon.
ReplyDeleteBut it was nice being with an actress, ha ha. Lee.